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Mourning a Loss That Doesn’t Quite Have a Name: Grief and Loss in the NICU
I think it’s safe to say it’s happened to most of us NICU parents. That piercing feeling, almost like a knife inside, that strikes when you least expect it; in fact, when you’re likely to feel the...
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Kangaroo Care and Beyond: Building Attachment with Your Baby, One Hug at a Time
Photo by Kara Whalin For me, attachment was one of those things. One of THOSE things. It gave me a pang when for the first couple months of my son’s life I had to ask permission to hold him. I had...
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Learning the Language of Grief: Telling a Twinless Twin About Their Twin
My son woke up tonight from a nightmare. He told me his best friend was dead. As a parent of a twinless twin, the symbolism was very difficult for me. A best friend. Dead. Could the image in his...
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Embracing Posttraumatic Growth: Is Growth Possible After Trauma?
Photo credit: Kara Wahlin I remember certain days in the NICU. Vividly. The tough days: the days one would never even want to speak of. At the time, I quit all of my social media, I stopped...
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You Are Not Alone: Fostering Prematurity Awareness Around the Globe
In meeting many NICU parents, I’ve gathered that not one of us would wish the NICU experience on anyone after having gone through it. It is terrifying and so destabilizing on multiple levels that one...
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Speaking to the Unspeakable: Lifting the Stigma Around Mental Health After...
When my surviving son was finally discharged from the NICU, he cried for about three months straight. Literally. My husband and I called it the daily “witching hour”, though it was hardly an hour. It...
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Rewriting the Story of a Partnership After Crisis: NICU Healing
The day after my son William died, my husband and I went to the hospital to see his twin Elliott in the NICU. We had agreed that being near Elliott would be the only thing that would feel ok that day....
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